Lets Own The Shit Out Of Our 20s

Since coming back from my recent travels, I've felt a bit down, and extremely contemplative.

This is pretty common for everyone, though! We go far away and escape our realities, only to come right back to the familiar just when things begin to get really good. For me, I got to escape work, news about the pile of garbage people like to call Donald Trump, and the superficiality of Miami, so it's no surprise that I want to leave it all again.

As great as moments on vacation are, I've been told that life can't be made up this all of the time. I've been advised that it's imperative to come back and put the work in to establish my career, and a ton of other things that are expected of me right now but it makes me feel like shit.

Really.

I've gotten to taste the vastness of this planet and now I have an insatiable appetite for exploration and adventure, but many people I interact with only care to live and know about their current environment. So much so that I was once ridiculed by an older acquaintance for "putting myself in danger and not providing myself with a foundation". I know the lady was coming from a good place, but wtf does that even mean?

Since when did it become sensible to assume that everything outside of what we see and understand is dangerous. And who said that setting a foundation has to be done in the same city you've been living in all of your life??? I believe that these are the types of comments that gradually begin to dim the light for so many of us. We give into the pressure of falling behind and not keeping up with standards those around us have set in place. But at what cost? Our happiness? Future regret? Lack of stories to tell our future children? I think it's time we find a way to politely (or not so politely) tell people to stop imposing their expectations on us. They don't own our hearts and souls, so they need to stop acting as if they have the right to chisel at our dreams.

They didn't have the audacity to seek happiness as intensely as we desire to, but that's not our problem. Those are decisions they have to live with. Not us.

I don't know what it is you deeply want for yourself and you don't owe it to anyone to explain, but I hope you go out and fight for it. Our 20s are so limited, and it's not okay to sacrifice these critical years to pacify others. It just won't be worth it later.

If you're feeling crippled by impositions of your family, friends, co-workers, bf/gf- it's a sign. You know it's not okay and I'm certain you know what you'd rather be doing! I know it's hard to accept the possibility of true happiness but the very idea of us questioning whether we should be truly satisfied or not is absurd! You're the main priority here and if anyone tries to make you feel selfish for that then that relationship should be evaluated. If another person truly loves you they will support you EVEN if your decision conflicts with their version of reality. At the end of the day, you are what matters most. You deserve the life you daydream about. It has taken me a long time to accept this, but the universe has found a way of placing the right people and experiences in my path to make it impossible to be unclear about this anymore.

I'm about to own the shit out of my 20's, like seriously own it. I'm going to truly prepare myself and just get out there and fly.

I sincerely hope that you do the same.

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